That stress we put on ourselves in is silly! But we all want that perfect picture and I understand. However, if you continue waiting for the perfect moment, then another five years pass and you keep re-promising yourself and keep putting it off.
My advice is to pick two dates. Outfits can be random and not color coordinated. Ifsomeone works that day then we can work around that schedule. Just set up the appointment and things seem to work themselves out. You never end up looking back and regretting the photos, but you will always regret not having the three generation photo once your loved one passes.
Photos arent perfect, they are materialized memories. Make happy moments 📸